The 5 Commitments
- kalyssadan
- Jul 9, 2016
- 2 min read
This reflection identifies the importance of a tool I learned during my internship with Northpoint Church.
I have been interning with Northpoint Church Austin. There has been so many experiences, most which are included in my portfolio, that have shaped me as a leader and a person. One of the most important is the 5 commitments.
1. When there is a gap between what I expected and what I experienced, I will believe the best.
2. When other people assume the worst about you, I will come to your defense.
3. If what I experience begins to erode my trust, I will come directly to you about it.
4. When I'm convinced I will not be able to deliver on a promise, I will inform you ahead of time.
5. When you confront me about the gaps I've created, I will tell you the truth.
They are a framework that Northpoint uses in their offices. Much like Mays, Northpoint loves practical tools and frameworks to think about our situations and allow us to be more self-aware. This self-awareness allows for each of us to grow more personally and allow for the relationships we have together in the work place.
Because I care so much about the relationships with people around me this has been one of the biggest ways that I continue to grow relationships and handle conflict within those relationships. This is found to be especially true because during my internship, my team and I were much more than coworkers, we were really close friends. We have movie nights weekly, birthday dinners, lunch and coffee dates to check in on personal lives, and personal advice along the way.
This is a tool that I can use in any environment I am put in. Whether it’s an organization at school or a new internship or a friendship, this is applicable in any of those. I can use them as a way to confront people when I know I don’t like conflict. It’s easy to come to someone with the mindset that you are fighting for a relationship with them. It is easy to disagree when you are fighting for your relationship with them because there is a certain kind of securement that you have that when conflict does arise there will be an outcome out of it instead of the fight of the century. I am thankful for this framework and the way it has allowed me to grow closer to people and fight to grow closer with them.
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