Just Have Fun

If you were to ask someone what I would major in just for the fun of it, it would be mastering coffee dates. Not romantic dates or anything like that, but those initial meeting coffee dates where you get to know a new person that you have just recently met, and you get to hear their story. Different people’s interest, likes, dislikes, quirks, passions, dreams, and their motivation. I ask hard questions sometimes to pull this out of people and ask questions about the experiences that people have had that shape them. I love hearing these things and seeing how different people view the same world.

While this is something I know I love, sometimes I can get too into the deep questions and intentional conversation sometimes. I lose the fun in simple time with people. Not saying that these coffee dates are stopping me from having fun but that coffee date mind set to every person during every situation can take away from relationship building. For one thing one people just aren’t the deep question kind of person ever. It can make them uncomfortable. This saddens me sometimes but if I keep asking these questions I can push people away because all I am doing is making them uncomfortable. Also, there is a time and a place for deep talks. A campfire or an actual date might be one, but during a kids summer camp or a dance party like environment, this is not the place. It doesn’t exactly scream open up your heart and deepest secrets to me. I have been noticed that I need to be more aware of the way people react to deep talks and the situation around me in order to open up those conversations.

I can take this back to school and the people that I know I want to build relationships with I can just have fun with. We can joke and goof around with each other. We can go on road trips and have late night dance parties, and I can know that we are growing closer through the giggles. I can know that there are so many different parts of people and childish fun is one of those that I can be a part of in someone else’s story. This has been a gradual lesson over the summer that a sweet friend shared her experience about too and I am grateful. I know that heading back to school there will be a lot of fun involved.

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